["Unless you are really bad, we will give you a chance to sleep with us." - Alek G. New York, NY]
It’s true. Even if a girl’s game isn’t tight, she can still get a second date if the guy is physically attracted to her.
There are a couple of deal breakers….and a few bad impression leavers.
DON’T sleep with a guy on a first date – yes so cliche, but true. Even if you are telling yourself that you only like him enough to sustain an exclusively physical relationship (a.k.a. booty call), this is still not the best way to do that. And yes, there are exceptions where the chemistry is so strong and the personalities are so compatible, that the guy may pursue a commitment. This is rare and you can’t lose anything by being patient.
DON’T get/act drunk – tipsy is ok, but slurring your words and tripping over yourself is not ok. Even if the guy has a lot of fun, he’s going to wonder if he can ever bring you home to mama.
These are some of the ‘not recommended’:
DON’T order more than one drink unless he offers – this partly goes along with the ‘don’t get drunk’ deal breaker, but additionally be conscious of the fact that very often the guy pays for the date and so being leisurely with ordering may come off as inconsiderate.
DON’T be glued to the blackberry – apparently guys hate it when girls keep checking and using their mobile device during a date. Some see it as a sign of immaturity; being overly social can be associated with the younger girl as opposed to the mature and independent woman. Others simply find it irritating and rude that a person is not present there with them, but is stuck in some other dimension.
DON’T dress inappropriately - dress to the weather, occasion, and look your best. A first date is not the time to experiment with new lipsticks or your ‘sweatpants chic’ look. At the same time, you shouldn’t wear a mini-dress to brunch; you certainly don’t want to come off like you are trying too hard. Look your best for the occasion, but ensure that you are comfortable and mobile in whatever you wear. Stay tuned for a post on dressing for a date.
Exercise caution in discussing religion and politics – Women are often not as well versed in politics, probably because they are not as interested. In any case, being less informed often doesn’t prevent people from forming strong opinions (this goes for both sexes). Tread lightly here (see previous post on DISCUSSING RELIGION AND POLITICS ON A FIRST DATE).