THE LOVE LAB

SUBJECT: Single and ready to mingle

Hi LL:

I am a 30 year old newly single lady.  I have a strong attraction for a younger man.  23 years old to be exact.  He is devastatingly gorgeous yet humble and doesn’t even know it.  He is clearly not on my level in terms of life but I am a hopeless romantic who believes in taking chances.  I have been burnt before trusting my heart to a young, inexperienced, immature, not ready to settle down man before.  The outcome was never good.  Is he different?  We definitely have made a few casual connections and flirting is taking place.  I have asked a guy friend to feel out the situation being that he knows us both.  This is a work related situation.  I completely light up when i see him and think it might be worth a date.  I am pretty sure he would be down and really want to see what he’s all about.  Am I wasting my time?  He is 23!  I want a husband and I’m sure he isn’t ready for a wife yet.  I could be wrong.  Your thoughts?

SUBJECT: out of sync’

My boyfriend of 7 bumpy years is now 28 and I am 31, I am more than ready for planning children and as much as he tells me he wants them, he is scared to talk about it. He says bottom line he is not ready now and doesn’t know when he will be, I respect that, however it has now been 3 years since I expressed my longing and I feel that maybe I am wasting my time. He wants us to move to somewhere where he can get a dog….am I holding on to something that may not materialize for say three more years?? Possibly, do I cut my losses now or risk in his words becoming more ‘obsessed about having kids’?????