SUBJECT: e-affair

BODY: I’ve been with the same man for 2 years now. I’m very in love with him and have been since we were 13.  We are grown now at 36 years of age.  About a year ago shortly after we had to maintain a long distance relationship, I had found on-line dating accounts that he had maintained while we were apart. When I confronted him, his reply was it was his way of dealing with our distance. And claims he never met with any of the women.  I believed him, I explained that this what not ok, however, and that it was not something that I would allow to be a part of my life. He agreed.  Well 4 months later while we were having problems due to him being home sick, I again found accounts.  These were even worse, sex sites.  Again, I confronted him.  He told me that he was not ready to be in a relationship and that again this was his way of dealing with it.  A week later and a lot of silence, he told me he was letting all of this go.  That it was not about me, and that he would not do this again.  Thing is, this time i really do believe him.  My biggest problem is that i feel the need to talk about it further, but he is quick to tell me…”let it go, i have”.  The last time I tried bringing it up, he got physically ill and had to excuse himself to be sick.  How do I approach him, without making him feel he has to defend himself or make him ill?  I just want to connect and communicate with him…:(

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