Remember – actions speak louder than words!

Hi LL:

I am a 30 year old newly single lady.  I have a strong attraction for a younger man.  23 years old to be exact.  He is devastatingly gorgeous yet humble and doesn’t even know it.  He is clearly not on my level in terms of life but I am a hopeless romantic who believes in taking chances.  I have been burnt before trusting my heart to a young, inexperienced, immature, not ready to settle down man before.  The outcome was never good.  Is he different?  We definitely have made a few casual connections and flirting is taking place.  I have asked a guy friend to feel out the situation being that he knows us both.  This is a work related situation.  I completely light up when i see him and think it might be worth a date.  I am pretty sure he would be down and really want to see what he’s all about.  Am I wasting my time?  He is 23!  I want a husband and I’m sure he isn’t ready for a wife yet.  I could be wrong.  Your thoughts?

SUBJECT: out of synch’

My boyfriend of 7 bumpy years is now 28 and I am 31, I am more than ready for planning children and as much as he tells me he wants them, he is scared to talk about it. He says bottom line he is not ready now and doesn’t know when he will be, I respect that, however it has now been 3 years since I expressed my longing and I feel that maybe I am wasting my time. He wants us to move to somewhere where he can get a dog….am I holding on to something that may not materialize for say three more years?? Possibly, do I cut my losses now or risk in his words becoming more ‘obsessed about having kids’?????

SUBJECT: e-affair

BODY: I’ve been with the same man for 2 years now. I’m very in love with him and have been since we were 13.  We are grown now at 36 years of age.  About a year ago shortly after we had to maintain a long distance relationship, I had found on-line dating accounts that he had maintained while we were apart. When I confronted him, his reply was it was his way of dealing with our distance. And claims he never met with any of the women.  I believed him, I explained that this what not ok, however, and that it was not something that I would allow to be a part of my life. He agreed.  Well 4 months later while we were having problems due to him being home sick, I again found accounts.  These were even worse, sex sites.  Again, I confronted him.  He told me that he was not ready to be in a relationship and that again this was his way of dealing with it.  A week later and a lot of silence, he told me he was letting all of this go.  That it was not about me, and that he would not do this again.  Thing is, this time i really do believe him.  My biggest problem is that i feel the need to talk about it further, but he is quick to tell me…”let it go, i have”.  The last time I tried bringing it up, he got physically ill and had to excuse himself to be sick.  How do I approach him, without making him feel he has to defend himself or make him ill?  I just want to connect and communicate with him…:(

LoveLab says:

AME: Zae

SUBJECT: Dating

BODY: I’ve Been trying to figure out how to go about asking a very interesting person out for an honest NSA meal,Without (Her) feeling any Obligation Relationship wise, its kind of difficult given the fact we never met, & i recognized her while chatting with this mutual friend, So i just don’t wanna  sabotage the situation b4 i even get the chance to meet & greet. Like they Say “You Don’t Get A Second Chance to Make A First Impression!

making a good first impression

Jeannette asks LoveLab about dating:

I am seeing someone who is in a uncommitted relationship with someone else. What can I do to show him that I want us to be committed?

LoveLab says:

Love Lab says:

www.youtube.com/watch?v=Coi3NcZnvHg